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Ekim 2024'de yazmaya başladığım hikayelerimi ve yaptığım resimlerden bazılarını burada topladım. - - - I have gathered here the stories I started writing in October 2024, as well as some of my paintings. - - - J'ai rassemblé ici les histoires que j'ai commencées à écrire en octobre 2024, ainsi que quelques-unes de mes peintures.

Tuesday, July 8, 2025

17- Family Reunion (Part 2)

 


As the garden slowly surrendered its suffocating heat to the comfort of the evening breeze, Çiğdem slid back the iron bolt and opened the courtyard gate to a stranger she did not recognize. She shielded the guest so the heavy gate wouldn’t swing back on him. The mysterious gentleman, who gracefully stepped out of a beautiful car, stirred not just her curiosity but everyone else's as well.

While Çiğdem and her husband Jacques greeted the guest, Uncle Ayhan had also risen from his seat, quickening his steps toward the gate until he was out of breath. The guest handed Çiğdem a Dom Perignon champagne he brought in a cooler bag. Ayhan embraced him tightly and for a long moment. “Sinan, my old friend, welcome,” he said. That was when Çiğdem realized this was the famous Lawyer Sinan Bey. “Mr. Sinan, how thoughtful of you,” she said, thanking him for the gift.

Çiğdem had a bit of a role in his arrival. She had only spoken to Sinan Bey on the phone, so this was the first time she saw his face. Truth be told, she hadn't expected him to suddenly show up like this. In the 150-page family book she had written, she had only devoted two pages to her mother’s and uncle’s years in Istanbul. She had only learned about this old love story of her mother’s during a visit in November — her mother, a deeply reserved woman, had never mentioned it. She had learned the story thanks to her Aunt Hale. For years, her mother hadn't said a word about that romance. In fact, while writing the book, she hadn’t been helpful at all — always responding with “I don’t know” or “I forgot,” which had driven Çiğdem crazy. One day, she even told her, “Mom, you should have been a KGB agent.”

Her main sources had been her eighty-year-old Aunt Ayla and her younger, sharp-minded Aunt Hale, who was nine years younger and had an elephant’s memory. Aunt Ayla was her connection to the 1950s and 60s. She had vividly described their mother’s youth, their grandfather’s love for vinyl records, and daily life in those times. But in 1971, Ayla had met her future husband, a man from Denizli living in Munich, through a newspaper ad. They married and moved to Germany, had daughters Pelin and Selin, and returned permanently to Turkey in 1985, settling in Denizli. That’s why the 1970s were Aunt Hale’s domain.

When Çiğdem visited Aunt Hale in Istanbul, she had shared every detail down to the tiniest bits. Hale was like a living encyclopedia of family history. She had told her everything from Çiğdem’s childhood 4K project, to the mischief she caused at school, to the burrs that clung to her hair walking through courtyards. There was enough material to write a whole book just on Aunt Hale. But out of fairness to the other siblings, Çiğdem hadn’t included even a tenth of it in her family book.

Once she had learned Sinan’s full name, tracking him down hadn’t been hard. Despite being over seventy, he still had a law practice. In addition to being a corporate attorney for several family-owned businesses, he also provided free legal aid to women facing domestic abuse. Çiğdem had visited his office in hopes of collecting photos and stories from her mother’s and uncle’s university days. The secretary told her Sinan Bey was in Antalya for a case but could be reached by phone immediately.

From the emotional tone of his voice on the phone, it wasn’t hard to tell how deeply attached he still was to her mother. When he said he’d be doing a historical tour of Amasra with his daughters that summer, Çiğdem, more out of politeness than intent, had said, “Well then, feel free to join our family gathering in Filyos.” No date, no formal invitation. In fact, she had regretted the offer the moment she made it and had promptly forgotten about it. Apparently, Sinan Bey had not. He had called Uncle Ayhan and managed to get himself invited.

Leman Hanım, seated midway down the table, stood slightly and grasped her chair as if undecided whether to walk toward the gate, instead choosing to wait as the guest entered the garden. She had recognized him but didn’t want to act hastily without being certain.

Seeing Sinan flustered her and brought a blush to her cheeks. Though she blamed Ayhan for being inconsiderate, her dimples and sparkling eyes betrayed her excitement. Still, she did not approve of her brother inviting Sinan, his old university friend, to a family event.

Ayhan had met Sinan on his first day at Istanbul University’s Law Faculty — a random seating arrangement sparked a friendship that lasted the entire first year. They were inseparable.

When Ayhan started his second year, Leman was accepted into the university’s Literature Faculty and moved to Istanbul. She lived with her brother in their modest apartment in Fatih and walked with him to school. She had met Sinan on her first day, and the spark between them had been instant. That spark had made her shy and timid around him ever since.

Sinan came from a well-established, well-off Istanbul family, but like Ayhan, he embraced the ideals of the 1968 movement and spoke of dismantling the bourgeoisie. Despite this, his elegant demeanor, perfect Turkish, pressed shirts, and Galatasaray High School friends revealed his bourgeois roots.

Five months after registering at the university, Leman’s father passed away. Ayhan was already on the brink of being expelled due to student activism. With the loss of their father and financial strain worsening, he dropped out in the middle of his second year to work at a law office as a clerk. He paid rent and supported Leman through school until she graduated and became a literature teacher in Ankara. Leman would never forget her brother’s sacrifice.

Their widowed mother and unmarried sister Ayla took over the household responsibilities. Luckily, the two middle sisters were in a boarding school on full scholarship. But there were still three younger siblings at home between the ages of 10 and 14. They were difficult years, and Ayhan had sacrificed himself for the family. Later, he married Gül, Leman’s classmate.

During those university years, Sinan would often visit their home. Leman and Sinan had never expressed their feelings beyond a few stolen glances and brief conversations. That was until Leman’s graduation ceremony. Sinan, who had graduated the year before, came with flowers. While Ayhan and his wife were in the kitchen, Sinan had pulled Leman aside, kissed her, and said, “One day I will marry you — don’t disappear.”

But life took a different turn. Shortly after Leman was posted to Ankara in 1972, she met Serdar, her teacher colleague’s older brother. Within a year, they were married. Serdar came from a family similar to hers. He had studied economics at the Faculty of Political Science and had a good job at the State Planning Organization. At the time, Leman found Sinan too bourgeois and believed his family would never allow him to marry someone from the provinces like her. After a heated argument beginning with “Lawyer Sinan Bey,” she became angry and requested a transfer to one of Ankara’s more prestigious schools.

She and Serdar had what could be called a happy marriage, and three children. When their daughters Çiğdem and Deniz were 7 and 5, the 1980 military coup took place. It ruined Serdar’s political career and forced the family to seek asylum in Switzerland due to his political activities. Their son Onur was born in Basel. Years later, after the children had grown, their 30-year marriage ended in divorce. Leman moved to her summer house in Izmir, devoting herself to her garden and her vast library. Around ten years ago, she had published a poetry book.

Now Ayhan and Sinan were walking toward her. With a theatrical but familiar flourish from the past, Sinan took Leman’s hand and gently brought it to his lips with a light kiss, saying, “Enchanté, madame.” Then, to avoid further embarrassing Leman, he followed Ayhan’s lead and walked with her toward the head of the table.

Leman remembered the argument they had when they parted ways half a century ago, and also how they reconciled fourteen years earlier at the funeral of Sinan’s mother, Jale Hanım. With those thoughts, she returned to her seat, deciding to give the two friends some time and join them later.

Çiğdem had left Jacques by the E-type and returned to the table, taking the seat across from her mother. About ten minutes before Sinan’s arrival, she had distributed the booklet she had prepared about the family history. Her cousin Selin had also scattered handmade bookmarks with personalized designs across the table, and guests were now eagerly and playfully trying to find their own. They were chatting about the patterns on the bookmarks and the contents of Çiğdem’s booklet, joking about the mini skirts Aunt Hale and Aunt Nejla wore in the 1970s, praising their beauty. The aunts, now with wavy white hair and sweet grandmotherly smiles, had once been striking women — one brunette, the other blonde — like Turkish versions of Charlie’s Angels.

Uncle Ayhan seated his guest at the head of the table, between himself and his sister Ayla. “Set a place for our guest, kids,” he said to the younger ones as if speaking to waitstaff.

The young people were wearing white t-shirts that Çiğdem had printed. On the front was a mulberry tree with “1915” written above it, and on its branches, starting from the grandparents down to the smallest twigs, the names of the grandchildren. At the top, it read “Filyos Reunion 2024,” symbolizing the hope for future gatherings.

Sinan took off his hat and laid it beside him on the table, running his fingers through his graying, wavy hair. While filling Sinan’s glass with raki, Ayhan said, “Leave the car here, sleep at Yeni Konak tonight — or the kids will take you, wherever that campsite was... Was it Amasra?” Then without waiting for an answer, he added, “Never mind, you’ll stay with us. I’m not letting the kids drive around at night.” Then they dove into a long conversation about old times.

Ayhan said, “My friend, I was just thinking... in the summer of 1968, when I came here on vacation, my father seriously considered tearing down this wooden house to build a new concrete one. He was constantly sketching out plans. Thankfully, he never started. We lost him that December. What would we have done then? An unfinished house, middle sisters just starting boarding school, three small kids at home, my mother, my older sister... tough days. But my mother managed to get by in this house. She even sold produce from the garden and eggs from the chickens. Anyway, the girls finished school, and things got better.”

Listening to all this, Sinan felt a bit ashamed. Back in those days, he would escape his parents’ grand waterfront mansion and come eat at their modest home, only to return to Bebek from Fatih by bedtime. Of course, he wasn’t a freeloader — he always brought something when he visited. When they went out drinking, he would cover the bill, but to him, those were small expenses. Ayhan ended with, “Those were hard days.”

Why had one of the wealthiest families in the region before 1940 become so poor that they had to sell eggs in the market within thirty years? While WWII raged across Europe and Turkish men were drafted amid war fears, the only difference between this family and the peasants they once looked down on was that they didn’t starve.

Over the following two decades, the family steadily lost its former wealth — they became poorer, but more enlightened. In the 1960s, they had led the way in educating girls in the district. Çiğdem’s grandfather, Rıza Bey, had become a progressive figure who read Ulus newspaper columns by Çetin Altan to the children by lamplight. Leman and her brother Ayhan had been sent to university in Istanbul, while the middle sisters, Hale and Nejla, were enrolled in a boarding teacher’s college. Leman had been the first woman in the entire town of Filyos to attend university.

Now, Aunt Nejla and Aunt Hale, whispering to each other in the middle of the U-shaped table arrangement, lived in Istanbul and had for many years. But they had first come to the city as teenagers, 15 or 16 years old, tagging along insistently when their father brought Leman to enroll in university. They later spent a few winter breaks in Istanbul. Back then, they had teased and joked about this man who was always around their older sister at the time. Now, fifty years later, they were whispering, “Why has he come here now?” In the background, the song “Don’t think I’ll be fooled twice…” by Nilüfer was playing.

In the aftermath of the 1980 military coup, Ayhan was arrested for union activities and organizing workers. Sinan served as his lawyer but couldn’t prevent him from spending two years in prison. That same year, Sinan lost his father in a tragic accident, and never having quite recovered from the heartbreak caused by Leman’s marriage, he fell into a deeper depression. In 1981, he moved to Paris to pursue a PhD in Commercial Law at the Sorbonne. He never married Estelle, whom he met five years later, but they had twin daughters together. When the girls were ten, Estelle married an American and moved to the U.S., leaving the girls in Sinan’s care.

“How old are the twins now?” Ayhan asked. “Camille and Chloé are 38,” Sinan replied. Ayhan’s eyes welled up. “Well, the years fly by. My eldest just turned 50 the other day. Hasn’t spoken to me since I separated from his mother. I raised a glass in his honor.”

Ayhan spoke of his divorce from Gül, his retirement, and move back to his hometown, and of his son’s long silence. Then, realizing he had interrupted his friend, he said, “So, you were saying — the girls. Last I saw them, they were still young. What are they up to now?”

“They’re doing well. Both married. I’ve got four adorable grandkids. So sweet, I could eat them up!” Sinan laughed. “You know, my sister never married. She’s helped raise the girls like they were her own since they were little. Remember how you used to call her ‘Snobby Suna’? We used to laugh so hard. Suna plays the piano beautifully — so did my mother. Remember? She loved La Bohème by Aznavour.” He paused, then added, “We last saw each other at my mother’s funeral.”

Both men fell silent for a moment, remembering Jale Hanım. A true lady, she had remained elegant until her death at 79 from Alzheimer’s. “Of course, Suna studied classical music,” Sinan continued. “She practically raised the girls — art, painting, ballet, piano. And now she’s onto the grandkids. But it’s good for them. I’m the playful grandpa, she’s the strict aunt.” He laughed. “These days, the girls are seeing their mother more often, too. That makes me happy. And me? Just living a retired life now, taking on the occasional case.”

Ayhan had never met Estelle. But he said thoughtfully, “It’s good the girls are reconnecting with their mom…” He remembered how much he had disliked Suna in their youth. He even recalled how Gül had been jealous of this love-hate dynamic and chuckled to himself. Changing the subject, he pointed to Çiğdem and Jacques sitting at the center of the table. “Leman’s son-in-law is French… Well, no — Belgian, but he speaks French. I think he really liked your car. Hasn’t left it alone for ten minutes. His name’s Jacques. Çiğdem’s husband. She even called you about that book project — tracked down the entire family tree like a detective. You’ll talk later, I’m sure. Now, let’s raise a glass to our reunion!” he said, lifting his glass.

To be continued in Part 3. Next week.

The Guest from the Past

The table set in the family home’s garden is shaken by the unexpected arrival of a long-lost guest: Lawyer Sinan, Leman Hanım’s university sweetheart. This surprise visit opens doors to both youthful memories and buried family history. As Çiğdem’s family research and book bring old relationships to light, the family gathered around the table begins to reconnect not only with their shared past but with each other. This reunion, blending old friendships, loss, regrets, and a hint of hope, will carry the traces of the past into the present.